A Book Suggestion
Hester Hill Schnipper, LICSW, OSW-C Program Manager, Oncology Social Work
AUGUST 03, 2017
Thanks to Barbara for sharing this article about a soon-to-be-published memoir, Questions for Me about Dying, by Cory Taylor. I can't wait to read it, and suspect that some of you will be equally eager to read more of her fine prose and honest thoughts.
From The New Yorker comes this article and from the book itself come these words:
Yes, I’m scared, but not all the time. When I was first diagnosed, I was terrified. I had no idea that the body could turn against itself and incubate its own enemy. I had never been seriously ill in my life before; now suddenly I was face to face with my own mortality. There was a moment when I saw my body in the mirror as if for the first time. Overnight my own flesh had become alien to me, the saboteur of all my hopes and dreams. It was incomprehensible, and so frightening, I cried.
“I can’t die,” I sobbed. “Not me. Not now.”
But I’m used to dying now. It’s become ordinary and unremarkable, something everybody, without exception, does at one time or another. If I’m afraid of anything it’s of dying badly, of getting caught up in some process that prolongs my life unnecessarily. I’ve put all the safeguards in place. I’ve completed an advanced health directive and given a copy to my palliative-care specialist. I’ve made it clear in my conversations, both with him and with my family, that I want no life-saving interventions at the end, nothing designed to delay the inevitable. My doctor has promised to honor my wishes, but I can’t help worrying. I haven’t died before, so I sometimes get a bad case of beginner’s nerves, but they soon pass.