Getting Dumped after Cancer
Well, this is a pretty upsetting/infuriating article from Today Health about the relatively high incidence of relationship break-ups after a cancer diagnosis--especially when it is the woman with the diagnosis. I want to say that, in my thirty plus years of experience, I have seen this only once. Countless, thousands of times, I have seen partners and spouses support and love through the experience. Even couples who were struggling often seem able to put the troubles aside for the duration--although, in that case, they likely were waiting, with accumulated interest, at the other end.
Here is the beginning and a link:
TODAY Health - TODAY.com
Cancer kiss-off: Getting dumped after diagnosis
By Diane Mapes
October 17, 2011
Getting diagnosed with breast cancer is bad enough. But getting dumped by the guy you're seeing right
afterwards is sort of like finding a piece of spoiled lettuce on your crap sandwich.
Granted, the guy I was dating wasn't exactly husband — or even steady boyfriend — material; it was far too
early in the game for that. But there was something there. Until things started getting "heavy." Then, not only
was the "something" gone, so was he.
Unfortunately, I'm not alone when it comes to the cancer kiss-off.
When Cindy Wine was diagnosed with breast cancer 10 years ago, she came home from her first radiation
treatment to an empty house.
"My husband said he couldn't go with me — he was too busy at work," says the 55-year-old former radio host
from Indianapolis. "But when I got home, all of his stuff was gone. I felt like somebody had punched me in the
Cancer? I'm outta here!