Dating After Cancer
Dating is rarely easy, and certainly being treated for/having had breast cancer is never a plus. Did you ever see that written in a personal ad: "Temporarily bald, sometimes sick, always tired...but a great women nonetheless." I doubt it. I always tell women that this will someday be a good way to separate the men from the boys and remind them that an age appropriate man is not going to have such a perfect body either. It has been my constant experience that the fact of a cancer history rarely makes a difference. The few exceptions have been men whose first wife died of breast cancer, and that is painful, but understandable.
Generally these conversations occur after treatment, sometimes years after treatment. I have known only a handful of women who took this on during treatment, but here is a marvelous article from MSNBC about one of them:
Dating after diagnosis: Love in the time of chemotherapy
Diane Mapes rejoined singles scene feeling 'as ugly asCall me crazy, but I went on a date two weeks after my double mastectomy.