Posted 5/25/2013 by hhill
Mothers with cancer. Our grief and terror about possibly leaving our children before they are grown. Our grief about leaving our children after they are grown. These are the most tender topics for most all parents with cancer. Given that I have had two breast cancers, twelve years apart, I have had two very different mothering experieces. The first time I was a single parent of an 11 year old and a 19 year old; the older daughter was away at college where she could likely pretend sometimes that this wasn't happening. I told her over and over to keep her own life going, that her doing so would help me the most. She did, and it did. My younger girl, at home, was forced to witnesss every difficult day, and I worried particularly about her. Without an involved and loving biological father, what would happen to her if I died? Many painful conversations with my older brother answered this question, and I had some solace knowing that he and his family would welcome and love her.
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