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Never Say Goodbye with Thanks to NPR

Posted 10/27/2013

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  I likely fool and flatter myself if I think that anyone notices if I miss a day. But it is now Sunday evening, and I last wrote, about my wonderful Monday group, Friday morning. Then I headed to the airport and a weekend in MN with my daughter and her family. While sitting in the Minneapolis airport Friday afternoon, waiting to meet my daughter, I learned that Marilyn, the writer of the powerful essay about our group and the woman who had come, so ill, had died that morning. Sitting in an airport, weeping, is a strange and terrible experience. I wanted to be home; I wanted to be with others who had loved her, and, instead, I noticed that everyone was glancing at me, quickly looking away, and walking fast to be distant from sadness. Fortunately my daughter arrived shortly, and she knew just what to do.

  And then Casey sent me this link to an incredible NPR story that was on StoryCorps. It would have been moving and perfect anyway, but was especially so in those circumstances. I give it to you, too:

'Never Say Goodbye': A Love And Life Kept Vivid

When we first met Danny and Annie Perasa in 2004, we heard about how their first date unfolded into an on-the-spot marriage proposal. We got a sense of Danny's big personality and his deep love for his wife. And we heard about his daily love notes to her.
To my princess, the weather out today is extremely rainy, I'll call you at 11:20 in the morning. And I love you, I love you, I love you.
"If I don't have a note on the kitchen table, I think there's something wrong," Annie told StoryCorps then. "You write a love letter to me every morning."
"When a guy is happily married, no matter what happens at work, no matter what happens in the rest of the day," Danny said, "there's a shelter when you get home, there's a knowledge, knowing that you can hug somebody without them throwing you down the stairs and saying, 'Get your hands off me.' Being married is like having a color television set; you never want to go back to black and white."

Read and listen here:


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